November 09, 2006

Losing in relationships

How important is it?

When we meet someone who we like and would love to be associated with, we often greet the person with open arms in our lives. We realise the person's importance over a period when we spend time/moments/secrets/dreams with them. And one fine day, we find the person gone.

Lets not talk about a natural separation called Death, we cant do anything about it. It's about those separations which we knowingly/unknowingly bring into a relation.

Some people cant stand others getting too close to them. They start behaving in a wierd manner and try to create distances. Some people want the ones who are close to be more closer...classic eg:- Best friends marrying each other. What about those who fall in neither category?

These folks usually dunno how to handle it. They get edgy when someone gets too close...and they move away...and when the drift starts, they get uneasy and try to hold on, thus creating a mess outta the relation. Why cant we decide who we want to be close with in our lives? Why is there so much doubt and suspicion when it comes to trusting our lives to someone?

I have freely trusted many folks. And now most of them dont even figure in my "Say 'Hi' atleast." list. They hurt me, let me down, but all that's part of the game. I have also found some gems who I can blindly depend on. It's a tradeoff.

But you know who's the worse of the lot? Those who care but cant show. Those who dont have the guts to live upto the relation. Those who would confess, only if cornered. Those who are more scared of what x/y/z would think if they admitted the truth. Those who cant decide what's more important :- the other person or the World. They would suffocate themselves and the other person too. No wonder they end up losing that person. And rightly so.

But lose everyone should. Atleast for a moment, if not for a month. Atleast for a second, if not for a season. Atleast for a fortnight, if not forever. Lest that happens, you'd never how life would be without that precious person. And you'd never know how incomplete you could be...

© Zarine.

October 16, 2006

Death

Why is man so scared of Death? When it is so inevitable, when it so certain then why cant he accept it easily? Life is a step ahead of Death. The day it stops walking, Death will overtake it.

Live, anyway. Die, we will, anyway.


© Zarine.

October 09, 2006

Uh oh..Sorry!!

Hmm...goof ups...mistakes...galtiyaan. Kisse nahi hoti? Mujhe se bhi hui hai, My Lord!!

Jaise ke:-


  • Clicking reply on my own mail and then sending the reply to myself :| It was meant to be forwarded!!

  • Confusing 2 associates with same initials and then sending the wrong one for redeployment. Poor thing, she was wondering why I wanted her to move out! :))

  • When not aware of a particular policy, trying to figure it out through common sense. Lesson learnt :- Not all policies are common sense friendly.

  • Changed the date of a major event and forgot to inform all those involved! :| It was a BAD experience! :((

  • **Added after Vipul's comment** - I had to draft a mail whose recipients were all the top honchos. I very meticulously wrote it...checked and rechecked the sentences, spellings..even read the sentences out aloud to see how they sounded! (DuH!). After a thorough check....clicked "Send". A minute later, one of them replied with a curt 1 sentence mail :- "Mails should always have a subject line." Yeh!!! I was so occupied with the body of the mail...once it was perfect...I was totally exhausted and sent the mail without filling anything in the Subject line! I banged my head on my keyboard after receiving my VP's mail!! :)). :((. I still dunno whether to laugh or cry abt it!!

Abh ke liye itna kaafi hai...warna meri waat lag jayegi!


© Zarine.

September 30, 2006

I love my job (Just realised!)

Lil amusing that I havnt blogged about my work life yet!! But me being me, sigh, anything is possible :).

I'd rather talk about how it feels being an HR Professional.

  • You are expected to know all the answers, be it policy related or "why my salary hike isnt reflecting in my pay slip!" sorta queries.

  • You get invited to every team's offsite and parties. None wants to be in HR's bad books, you know ;-)

  • You gotta be empathetic towards the other members (I hate calling them 'employees', dunno why!)...doesnt matter if you've had a bad day, you just cant pass off the heat to them!

  • Ops (Operations i.e) would love if you said 'yes' to whatever practices they're following. Say 'No' and then you get to see the real drama unfold :).

  • It's imp that the top management buys in your ideas, else none below them will respect it.

  • You touch lives directly. The smile/gratitude one gets to see when an associate gets the kinda project he wants or has his case resolved in time is sooooooo heartening :). I save all those "Thanks a ton, Zarine..." mails. (At times, fwd them to my bosses, as well ;-) ).

  • The control you have over their careers is mind numbing. You get to decide who gets deployed where...you get to decide who gets how much hike...you decide how much loan is to be approved. And all this while balancing the HR and Ops. Not getting carried away by "Mom's not well, need loan" to putting your foot down on members being made to wait at interviews with other departments.

  • That look in the eyes of the associates when you ask them "I believe there's something bothering you. Can we talk it over?" They just cant believe that the company really cares.

  • That euphoric feeling you get on Monday morns when you drag yourself to office only to be greeted by 300+ smiling faces..."Morning Zarine...Hi Zarine...Hey Z!...". Makes me feel on toppa the world..!! :) :) :)

  • Times when your bosses simply ask you, "Where do you see us in terms of manpower, redeployment, engagement and attrition in Q1, '07? " and you are like "*Gulp!* What?? Am just 5 months into my first job..!!" feeling reeling in your head!! :))

  • Those days when an associate in her performance review confesses "Zarine, I need help in terms of training. I want to move to the next level. Please guide." And you give that assuring smile and say "Give me a documented plan on your development and we'll sit over it with the Training team." The training plan gets discussed and closed. 4 months down the line you see a mail in your inbox.. "hadnt it been for you, Ma'am, I wouldnt have made it here." Ah! What more do ya need..? :)

Net net - Being in HR, I'm glad I didnt get sucked into those draconian admin jobs. Instead my company has given me a free hand at planning and implementing things which directly impact our manpower. My first boss (Who's now with the US branch) had said "I see you changing this place". And am so so glad, am living upto those words.


Ps:- I didnt mention the mega goof ups I keep making :)). C'mon, how'd I learn otherwise...I wasnt born an HR Manager :) . Let's save tht for another post!


Adios..!!

- Z. (That's how I sign off my mails...now everyone calls me 'Z' instead of Zarine! :)) )





© Zarine.

September 25, 2006

Ramadan Mubarak..!



May Allah accept our prayers, and more importantly, forgive our mistakes.

Ameen.



© Zarine.

September 05, 2006

Arz kiya hai...


Kuch aise bhi lamhe hoten hain

Jinke hone ki umeed nahi hoti
Choo kar jabh yeh guzar jaate hain
Toh muskuraate aansuon ki keemat nahi hoti

Yun toh dekhten hain hazaar khwaab
Par har khwaab ki taqdeer haqeeqat nahi hoti
Jis pal koi haqeeqat khwaab ban jaaye
Aise pal se zindagi muflis nahi hoti

Mat karo na-umeed is dil ko
Bujhte chiraag se roshni nahi hoti
Toofan se darr kar jo saahil par reh jaaye
Aisi kashti ki koi manzil nahi hoti.

~ Z.


© Zarine.

August 31, 2006

Waiting...

I look forward to the day
When I can forgive myself
For all the promises not kept
For all the memories forgotten.

I look forward to the day
When I can dance my heart out
Sing to my soul's content
And not care what they're thinking.

I look forward to the day
When I can smile
Inspite of knowing that I failed
Inspite of knowing that I'm weak.

I look forward to the day
When my resilence gives strength
Everytime I give in,
And to everyone who gives up.

I look forward to the day
When I will not wake up with my mind occupied
With the past follies
With the future make-ups.

I look forward to the day
When today will matter more
When past gives me reasons to smile
When future gives me hope to live on...

I look forward to the day
When I shall not measure myself
Against standards set by them
Against perfection.

I look forward to the day
When relativity ceases to exist
In my existence
In my relations.

I look forward to the day
When I can smile
With just a thought of a pal
With just a thought of myself.

I look forward to the day
When I seek the joy of fulfilment
The joy of completeness
From myself.

I look forward to living without the guilt of living for myself.


© Zarine.

August 29, 2006

'KANK'y stuff.

When I first saw the trailers, I developed disgust for this movie. Yet another mega starrer-tear jerker. Why cant they use stars for a better purpose?!

On a sad sunday noon, me and mom decided to watch this one. All geared up for a sloppy show, I left the theater thinking "Finally, Bollywood is growing up."

I found the movie interesting. Because it had so many flawed characters. None was perfect..(Abhishek came close to being the perfect man, but the night he makes Rani realize her 'inadequacies', lo..! he's one amongst us.)

I wonder...

  • If SRK would've fallen in love with Rani if she was a successful woman, like his wifey.
  • If Abhishek ever cared to look beyond his own nose. "I love..I love..I love..; She doesnt...she doesnt...she doesnt." Ever cared to find out why she doesnt...?
  • Why couldnt Rani get over her obsession with "Love" and cast one caring glance at her hubby...
  • If their (SRK and Rani's) love was so true and strong, why didnt they tell it all and walk out on their partners, instead of leaving each other-crying copious tears in front of their partners-getting ditched-staying all alone for goddamned 3 years?
  • Why after 3 years it was "Oh my god, he's alone..am alone too...lets unite!" sorta convenient thingie?
  • Why do Abhi and Preity feel they could decide for their partners as well?
  • Why couldnt Preity slow down and match SRK's pace in life? You cant live life your own way, and then say "he doesnt understand."

Am sure, many more would pop up... but this movie made me more averse to the whole marriage syst. It's just too demanding on one's nerves..!!


© Zarine.

August 12, 2006

Tale mein twist

Yeee Hawww.

Some post the last post was. Poor ol' Z sounded as the most wretched creature on Earth! Sob, sob.

Hehehehe, raat gayi baat gayi..:D Saari bhadaas nikaal di uss post mein...now it seems so light within..

Oww kaay...Apun ki life mein ek twist aaya hai...jiski agar sahi angle pe banking nahi ki to accident hojayega :D

So while I negotiate this curve...keep zooooommmming folks..........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yo!


© Zarine.

August 04, 2006

For no reason.

Hi.Am down. For a very personal and strange reason. For a reason that none is to blamed. For a reason that it was none’s fault. For a reason that Life sucks. For a reason that whenever I choose to be close to what I like…Life smirks at me. For a reason that I can never get to do what I really want to do. For a reason when my heart wants to speak out and reach out to someone, I face a vacuum. For a reason that I am alone when I want to celebrate an occasion with someone I want to… For a reason that Life has decided that I stay the Loner that I am. For the reason that every happiness I want is delayed. For a reason that I don’t feel the happiness when it actually happens. For a reason that the fire within me is dead by the time its time comes. For a reason that reaffirms my faith in the thing that what I really love and hold dear shall always stay away from me. For a reason that those who love me have to be kept at a distance, ‘coz I cant get them close. For the reason that when I want to get them close, I have to distance away from that which is precious and already close to me. For a reason that Zarine shall always long in her life. For a reason that Zarine doesn’t celebrate her success. For a reason that Zarine isn’t surprised when she fails. For a reason that Zarine sleeps alone and lonely. For a reason that Zarine cries by herself. For a reason that Zarine is looked upon to be strong…for she is her only anchor. For the reason that what she anchors on itself is dependant on her. For occasions like this when the kid within is hurt. For the fact that it gives up on Hope. For the reason that everytime it hoped from deep within, the hope died infront of its eyes. For the fact that Life gave her a life of ‘penny wise, pound foolish’.For she gets small stuff but is denied everything big. For the fact that none expects her to crib. For the reason that she doesn’t know if she should expect anything from anyone at all. For a small hope that gets killed in one shot. For none’s fault. For the fact that she hopes people read this and feel sorry for her. Worry about her. And she’d fool them into believing that everything’s alright and she’s a strong gal. Yet again. For she can never accept the fact that she can be hurt too…none can…For the reason that I dunno why something so private needs to be posted. For the reason that I hope it reaches out to someone who’d save me from myself. For the reason that I’d let someone like this enter my life. For the reason that I wont let anyone come tht close to me. For the reason that I choose to be the Loner that Life wants me to be.

For a joke called Life. For a puppet called Zarine. For a Hand called God.


© Zarine.

July 31, 2006

Operation Mission

"kuch paane ki ho aas aas "
Umm...no aas mere aas paas.

"koi armaan ho jo khaas khaas "
Nah. None. Zip. Zilch. Nada.

"guzre aise har raat raat ho khwaishoon se baat baat "
:)..sapne dekhne ka time nahi hai :.

"kuch aisa kar ke dikha khud khush ho jaaye khuda "
Pata nahi kya chehra batayenge uss Khuda ko...

"aashayein khile dil ki ummedein hase dil ki "
Guess high time they did..

Think man, think! Feel it! What drives your life?? What is the passion of your life? What is that one dream....that fire which fuels you?!

Discover yourself...life aint worth otherwise...



© Zarine.

July 23, 2006

Reliving the old...

I simply love old songs. Few new ones are good too..but the old ones have a mystical touch to them. Infact, when I listen to the oldies on my system...they remind me of Mom and Dad. The times when they would listen to the old songs together after dinner...those images are etched in my mind...how much would I love if my guy too loved my kind of music...sitting together, listening to these melodies..life would complete the circle...


Ps:- Cant thank you enough for the 400+ old songs you gave me...u dunno how much I value them, Vipz.


© Zarine.

July 09, 2006

My calling in life.



Tonight Z announces to the world her true passion in Life. That one person. That one heart. That one moment worth waiting for...worth living for...worth everything.

Stay beautiful,

~ A hopelessly romantic soul.


© Zarine.

July 02, 2006

Free fall.




Off late, have often caught myself thinking/imagining about bungee jumping during the meetings. I feel like running outta the room into the greens. Want to free fall. Zip, zap, zooom.

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When I used to hear about Life and the choices it offers, I would smirk. It was all pre-determined to such an extent that even what we would choose would be part of the larger design! Hmmm..doesnt look like it works that way. What we choose determines how people perceive us. It's of no use to make sense of what people are saying/doing, coz they keep changing. Everything is so fluid and dynamic that you crave for some stability. Something to hang onto...an anchor..a support...

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Miles to go before I sleep...
Hundreds of promises to keep...
I swear on the Lord above,
I must be one helluva procastinating creep!




© Zarine.

June 29, 2006

B'day Blue..Pink...whatever..

Ow, it was my b'day on 27th june. Ideally should've posted something...ah, if only things were ideal enough..!

Whatever.


© Zarine.

May 28, 2006

Dazed

At times I'm a little lost. Something is on in my mind, but I have no clue what it is. Moving ahead becomes difficult coz something is holding you back. Restlessness and anxiety take over. What on earth is happening?

I feel like walking alone in the night. Guess that should soothe me down...

Hmm.



© Zarine.

May 27, 2006

All the best, buddy.



Vipz, all the best as you start your career. My prayers will always be with you. Stay firm during the tough times for they are the signs of coming happiness. Take care of yourself and hold yourself above shallow characters. Make mistakes and learn from them. Grow from strength to strength. In any moment of doubt, just remind yourself that you are one of the most precious things I posess. And anything that I prize is the best that Life can offer to anyone.

You are the best - Never forget that.

Will stay your pal forever,

Zari.



© Zarine.

May 16, 2006

Killer V.

Vengeance is a powerful driver. It takes you over and makes you lose sight of sense. To give back as you got it gives one a sense of Power. The power to make/mar someone's life. In the heat of the moment - when the other person is at 'your' mercy - you have to make the call. Pull the trigger or let him go. All those past moments flash in your mind, hormones start racing your heart and you pull the trigger. Peace. Its over. Or is it a begining of a tumultous future?

I have seen people take revenge. I remember that smile on their face and their emotionless eyes. Some people hurt/kill others to remove all that symbolised a painful past. They think by removing that person, they can shrug off their past. Or if they give that person his 'due', they'd feel better. It's been a while since I saw someone, who destroyed/spoiled someone else's life, lead a peaceful life himself. Has anyone of you witnessed this?

Not taking revenge is considered a sign of cowardliness. I believed in this too. With time I have realised, seeking revenge worsens matters. Instead just let him be. Nothing can hurt a person more if you ignore his presence, his existence. It hits him right there. He might then try to make your life difficult and thats when you should ask him to buzz off. Self defence should not be compromised, come what may.

Few things grow when ignored, like those annoying weeds. But what caused those weeds to appear? Lack of proper gardening? And now that they are there, what do you do? Ignore them so that they wreak havoc in your garden? You weed them out, right? Use herbicides and all that? You uproot them. Kill the cause. And they come back next year, and you do it all over again. You arnt exactly 'killing' the cause, are you? So you think what causes them to recur every year. You figure its your gardening. You arnt doing the right things. Then you plant all the right plants and take care the right way. The weeds dont turn up in all their grandeur next year (but they'll still be here and there).

Lesson? Killing the cause wont help. Kill the habit within you which is causing it.



© Zarine.

May 13, 2006

I babble too.

Sob sob..the last post reminded me of the times when I saw this flick with Vipul the Pahwa, right a day before the final exams..! :( Vipullllll...........:(((((((((

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Waise, on work front..me got a nice boss (touchwood, *nice* is an understatement! ). He keeps enquiring if I have resumed blogging?! Dont stop blogging and get a life outside work are his commands for the week :)). Okay okay..am not blogging coz he asked me to..(see see boss, am so nice :P ), am blogging coz I feel like..(yeh right!! :)) )

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I thought of penning down a post on "Lies and all that lies beneath them" (waah waah, what a title!!), but I felt so good after thinking out the title that the post will now have to wait (hehehehehe..lazy me cooks excuses like nobody's business :D )

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Umm..thats it for now.

Vipul come back soon re...dumbass, who goes travelling in hot summer??!!!



© Zarine.

Ziddi ladki.


What I reallllyyyyyyyyyy like abt this pic and the song "Khalbali" is the "break free" mood it carries. Umm..thts me all the way :)

Aha..I feel like typing down the lyrics (since all u folks arnt fortunate enough to hear me croon it :D ). The parts of the song I love :-

hone hone de nasha khone khone ko hai kya - 2
ek saans mein pee ja zara zindagi chadha
hai yeh toh ek jashan tu thirakne de kadam
abhi saanson mein hai dam abhi chalne de sitam

aankhon mein hai khalbali
dhadkanon mein khalbali
mausamo mein khalbali
hai khalbali

kaisi yeh tabdili hai
sheeshi botal pee li hai
raat neeli neeli hai
hai khalbali

And this one :------------>

Ziddddiii ziddddii ziddddiii zidddiii
Ziddddiii ziddddii ziddddiii zidddiii armaaaan
Ziddddiii hai toofaaan
Zidddddii hum bhi yahaan..!

Yeh right, outright ziddi and proud of it :).


© Zarine.

May 01, 2006

Thinking aloud

This post was long overdue..but then I had to make it. :)

I've lead a strange life. One where I dont get what I aspire for. When I settle for something lesser, all that I wanted falls right into my lap! I always knew myself as a fighter. I'd fight for anything and everything! So when life doesnt give me what I want, I take what it gives me and turn things around.

With time, I have seen myself grow more comfortable in my skin. My definition of achievement/success are my own now. I no longer aspire for someone else to commend me for what I've done (rather I wince when folks say I've done well!).

It's gonna be a straight from my heart post...so I might sound vain at times...

Thanks to all the people who walked out of my life...who ditched me..dumped me...betrayed me. Now I know that the only person who'll see me through all this is Myself. I have had instances when I almost broke up with those who are now in my "Indispensable Folks" list. I chose not to react. I dont believe in vengeance. Invariably God does that for me. I let them go. And they came back. Few others might choose to do the same...I wont stop anyone. 'Coz I know, I'll live through it all...

I joined my first job a week back. It came outta blue...and I chucked my campus offer for it. This place is helping me realise myself. My AVP tells me, "I see you changing this place." I dunno if I'd. But I'd for sure make anything better than it is now, if I can.

I dont make promises to myself anymore. I just make it a point to deliver all that I can. Life is so simple this way. The way to bigger things is to get the smaller ones right.

I dont have a "Love" in my life. All that I have are coupla pals who I hang onto. These folks make up for tht one person. They are my love, life, support system and my anchor. 1 week into my job and I know close to 100 people already. Making pals was never a problem with me....but calling them when I need to has been. But this gang - guess it goes without saying....

I dont blog the way I used to....and I seriously dunno why. Mebbe coz now I simply talk and discuss what I'd normally put down here.

Life has been strange. I've been through shit. I've been on cloud nine. All that I wish now is the ability to handle situations with panache...as they come, when they come.

Life is beautiful.
© Zarine.

April 06, 2006

The Fact.

"The central part of my own life is my death. After a while,it will all come to nothing. Whenever I have the courage to face this, my priorities become clear. At such times nothing is done in order to achieve something else. No energy is wasted on maintaining the illusions. My image does not matter, I do not worry about how I am doing. I do what I do, am what I am. That's it. The imminence of my own death is the pivot around which things turn. This makes what is going on now all that counts."


"All relationships are temporary. It's so terribly hard to remember that we have so little time. We stall, kid ourselves, promise that we will deal with things some time soon. Not only are there many things that we never get around dealing with, but even when we do, there is so damn much waste in the process, so much unnecessary distance between ourselves and those with whom we try to make a life."




© Sheldon B. Koop.

April 05, 2006

Hmm

Mohabbat mein nahi hai
Fark jeene aur marne ka,
Usi ko dekhkar jeeten hai
Jis kaafir pe dam nikle.
Hazaaron khwahishein aise ki
Har khwahish pe dam nikle....



© Mirza Ghalib.

Reading Season.

As I got loads of time to kill, I decided to dig out some old books. Some of my favt subjects like Data Communication & Networking, Modern Database Management, TCP/IP, Java Applications and Web Designing were back on my table. Best part is,this time I'll not be reading them like a student does :).

I came across a book called "If you meet Buddha on the road,kill him." It has a line which impressed me - "No meaning that comes from outside of us is real." The book talks about how Gurus and Spiritual Guides are nothing better but a guiding force to discover what lies within ourselves. Will write a review on it. I read 3-4 pages and was thinking over it for 2 hours! :O :O.

One dhaasu line from that book :- "Only what you can let go will stay with you."


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I realised today I dont like history.



© Zarine.

April 02, 2006

Eyeing Expansion: Intel's Offering to Rural India - the Community PC

Cross posting from Desicritics

he rural sector has one more reason to smile. After ITC's e-choupals, here comes Intel's "Community PC" platform.

Intel has recently announced the Community PC as its offering to the rural Indian. Its part of the "Jagruti" initiative wherein Intel collaborates with businesses, governments and education institutes to provide their services through this platform.

The PC is designed to face the rough and tough conditions of the rural sector. It is a expandable and runs on shared access. It has a rugged chassis, Customized Power Supply Unit (CPSU), lower power consumption and Access Control. The Chassis can withstand harsh temperatures (upto 45 degree Celsius), high humidity levels(70 to 85 RH). It has an in built fan to cool the motherboard. The CPSU is a combination of the Integrated Power Supply and UPS. This protects the computer from abrupt power cuts. What's more, it takes less than 100W to run!

Rural India is a huge untapped market for the Big Tech guys. Internet kiosks have been increasing across the rural India providing access to services like e-governance, e-banking et al. Intel aims to position its PC for such kiosks thus not only providing the farmer with a rough and tough machine, but also promoting access to technology.

Be it FMCG or IT, Rural India is the place to be. But is this another monopoly in making?




© Zarine.

March 30, 2006

Mask

Vipul the Pahwa seriously posts here about masks and all.

I dont see any problem with masks. Not everyone deserves to know you as you are. Different people, different situations and therfore a different you. As long as you can control who you are, no issues.

At some time the mask will come off, you say? Then lemme put it this way. Replace masks with faces in the above para. Now now faces dont come off,do they? ;)

Itna sonchneka nahi life mein. Jab situation jaisa hai,waisa react karneka.




© Zarine.

March 27, 2006

Lost in 'Space'.

I like this place man. Feel like talking forever here :).

Since all my pals turned into bewafaas and left me to join their jobs/homes, am all by myself. Useless things pass my mind and I'm too lazy to ponder over them :P. Raving raving and ranting ranting about nothing at all.

I read somewhere "People want space in their relationships". I wanted too. Before I knew it was all BS. Now I'd rather have my guy calling me up and bugging me all the time than having 'space'. I'll just say "Quid pro quo,hon" and he'll back off :D.

What space man..kya karoge space ka? Why do u want any emptiness in a relation? Why cant u be your respective selves anyway? Before you know, that space turns into a huge gap which would require a bridge to close the divide. Cherish the proximities. Not everyone is lucky to have their loved one by their side :(.

IF there's enough respect in a relation, you'd naturally let the other person be as he/she is. "Space" factor is taken care of.

Hai na?



© Zarine.

March 26, 2006

Who's listening anyway?

With lots and lots and lots and lots of time to kill, I am surfing the Net most of the time. What surprises me is the number of blogs, forums and networking sites that are running. Everyone (well, almost) has a blog these days. We got forums that have people coming together and discussing stuff. And you ought to be extinct if you havnt heard of Orkut.These places are good for creating new links in our lives. You get to meet so many folks and your circle expands. So far so good.

The Net has empowered everyone with the Freedom of Opinion. You can simply pick up some topic and state your thoughts about it. Though this is a good thing which sets one's gray cells thinking, what worries me is the authenticity of such opinions. If I need to know about something, how do I know who to listen to?? Too much of information is a burden now.

Everyone puts across their 'opinion' making the content subjective to some extent. Right,left and center we got portals and websites asking you to voice your opinion on something!! There was a time when I was an active member of such forums, but after a while it didnt make much sense to me. You talk,discuss,argue,fight,move on. Next topic. Repeat. If your information can help someone, that's good. But pointless debates and discussions beat me.Like a wise man once said, "Right to be heard does not imply right to be listened to."


The Net is a powerful media. Last few months have witnessed its impact on some relevant issues. But we need to make a clear distinction between 'news' and 'opinion'. Between what is to be heard and what's to be ignored. Some portals have the "Who's who" talking about issues. These folks know their stuff. Some portals have greenhorns talking about what they like. This makes for good timepass reading. Some portals have both. We gotta be choosy here. More choices make life more complicated, right? :)


Am off to somemore surfing....hail free time! :D


© Zarine.

So we begin..!

Ok. New Blog. New Beginning. Really?

Nah! :D It's the same me but in a new,improved package :)).

I got 2 more (sad) months to go before I join mah job. Till then I decided to hand over the reins to mom. The going has been smoother than I imagined :D.

Am jumping around the house...And yeah,am gonna make Aloo Paranthas for breakfast on Sunday morn :D.

Wow man...intellectually void posts are fun!! :))


© Zarine.

March 24, 2006

Brand New Day

Yoohoo!!

I dont like carrying the luggage of the past. Hence an altogether new blog. One cant erase one's history, so that old blog stays just the way it is.

Life's got a new beginning in more ways than one. It's not a new chapter but a whole new book!

So....zooooooommmmmmmmm innnnnnnnnn to the Futurrrrrreeeee....! :D

March 05, 2006

Fear in the Society

Cross posting it from Desicritics.


Can freedom and fear co-exist? Going by the recent cartoon controversy, apparently not. Freedom by definition is the ability to do think/ act/ speak without constraints and causing harm. Fear is something which stops you from doing the same because of the consequences.

In a democratic set-up like India and the US, fear has become a part of the national fabric. The US citizens are afraid of paedophiles, of been robbed on the roads at gun-point and after 9/11, the whole country is cautious. Is this the price one pays for freedom?

Rang De Basanti has been applauded by most of us. Like armchair missionaries we appreciate anything that represents the cause. But seldom do we take it up on ourselves to change the system. A Manjunath or Satyendra Dubey, upright citizens who died on duty, reaffirm the fear. We choose to keep quite because the consequences scare us. The Freedom of speech and expression may incite many to voice their concerns, but unless an Act to protect the Whistle Blower is firmly in place, they shall continue to clam up. India strongly needs a Whistle Blower Act as rightly stated here .This Act can assure citizens of protection from harmful forces but addresses only a part of the problem.

General feelings of insecurity and mistrust in a society cannot be dealt through Acts alone. Humans, by nature, are suspicious of their surroundings. This can be traced back to the Neanderthal times when we had to live amidst wild animals and safeguard ourselves against such environs. Locks, Double doors, encrypted passwords are all an extension of the same. We tend to think everyone is out to harm us.

Fear can also exist due to different value systems. In a democratic set-up, where more than one belief exists, differences can creep in. These differences can lead to conflicts which eventually lead to mistrust within the society. At some places like Afghanistan, fear was the direct result of the tyrant Taliban rule. When laws are guided by written word instead of human concern, misery is bound to exist. In both the cases, freedom of expression is affected by external constraints.

What then causes mistrust and insecurity to thrive? Why do the they give rise to fear which hampers harmonious relations? What can we do about it?

The country's coming together on the Jessica Lal case is an example of how the situation can be changed. When those in the 'system' know that they cant get away with anything and those outside it know that they have the power to change it, the fear of exercising freedom will eventually be curbed.




© Zarine.

February 12, 2006

8 bahane karke....

One great thing about Blogosphere is Tags :)). When u dunno wht to blog abt,here comes a tag to ur rescue :D.

Surbhi, the lovely one, has tagged me. She's intrested in knowing 8 things I'd want in my "Partner in Crime" - P.I.C (tht's wht I prefer calling "him" ;) ).

  1. Knows what to talk and when to talk! He should sense the situation and act accordingly.
  2. Loves food and loves to cook/experiment with it. (Btw, I jus discovered Upma + Sauce and Butterscotch + Choc sauce are good combos. Infact, anything with Choc sauce on it is good, what say, LLVP? ;) )
  3. We shouldn't have to seek permission from each other to do things. As in,if a pal is in town, I can invite him over without thinking what will my P.I.C think. If he feels like going for a trek, he can. No restrictions whatsoever. As long as we know abt each other's whereabouts, P.I.C can be in Honolulu for all I care..! :D
  4. Should be able to deal with my mood swings using the right techniques ;).
  5. Should tease, pull my leg, make my life difficult with his antics! :))
  6. Simply hug and cry when he feels like. I'd always want him to share his anger, fraustrations, disappointments, failures with me.
  7. Have no hangups when it comes to helping around with homely chores. Mil baatke kaam karenge :P
  8. Shouldnt think twice before holding my hand infront of his pals. Rather introduce me as "Meet my Angel!" (Wow!!!)
Short and sweet na :)

Am really intrested in knowing abt P.I.C of the foll folks. Puneet,Ranj & Ranjan are already tagged, so remn:-

  1. Vipul (u knew this was coming ;) )
  2. Mike
  3. Subbu (Gotcha!! :D)
  4. Girish (Puhleez,blog!!!)
  5. Hirdu



© Zarine.

February 11, 2006

Blinded by Fear

2 things. Firstly,well,apologies for the long hiatus. MBA's over,so was taking the much needed break.

Next, the sequel to the preceding post. Honestly speaking, as much as I thought I knew the answers, I realized that they were only based on my second hand experiences. Experiences which could possibly be someone else's perception and my not being a part of the 'real' thing, can distort the whole picture. So, this is for all those who were kind enough to comment :- Lemme take the plunge and I shall share with you all what I see beneath the surface. Thanks again for all those comments... :)


I really like Mike. He makes me think,esp this post of his. It talks about dreams not been achieved coz of fears and the most dreaded fears coming true.

So after a really longggggggggggg time,here comes a Psychological Post :)

When we dream,those dreams are not neccessarily our own. They're often colored by the expectations of the people around us (like almost every other thing abt our existence). If folks around you are doctors and engineers, your 'dream' would be to become one too, unless these folks gave you enough space to see,think and explore about other careers. In such cases,then you end up choosing a different career, mostly. Now was this choice just to break away or did you really want it?

Why do we fear? Because we have something to lose. Can be anything, but the biggest fears are those associated with the loss of non-materialistic stuff. Losing one's name, prestige, face, identity, ego. We fear because we are not sure. Neither of the outcome nor of our capability to handle it. We fear what can most prolly happen. Coz we are aware of the reasons that build up its existence. U score well in maths and u goof up the biology paper. You dont fear maths result,u fear the biology one. When you know that you have somehow paved way for tht dreaded thing to come alive, you only wait in anticipation for it to occur. The "Self Fulfilling Prophesy" concept, i'd like to believe, stems from this context.

Now lets connect dreams and fears. If you arnt' really sure of your dream and the reason you are pursuing it, chances are that you dunno whether you are heading in the right direction. If you arnt aware of the means to the end, you might get lost midway. A moment of uncertainty is enough to light the spark of fear. The fear of the unknown. You dunno what's gonna come up next. You dunno how you'll deal with it. And since you arnt sure of your dream, you find yourself confused and disillusioned. That shaking of the belief, that questioning of faith and doubts, all combined together, have laid the foundation for Fear. Welcome to Hell, honey. The Fears have now blinded you. And the only way you can get out of something is to go through it. Breaking away from it will give ya more clarity of purpose.

(Time to get into consultative mode ;) )

How do we overcome this Fear??

Read the para that connects Dreams and Fears and thou shalt find the answer :) .


Btw, ever wondered that Fears can actually be triggers to find what sets you free? :)



© Zarine.

January 26, 2006

Hmm...HR did u say?

I am mean. Very very at times. But I cant help but laugh when I see folks with zilch experience in HR talk about their 'passion' for it. Mind you, I was one of them. Till sometime ago. I once wanted to blog about HR,infact almost decided to start one on it. Gautam does a good job and he's been in the industry for more than 5 years. So you know he aint talking through his hat. He knows his stuff.

Coming back to nubile newbies. What do u mean when you say you are 'passionate' about HR? When an employee makes you run 10 times before he fills in the appraisal form, will you still be so 'passionate'? And multiply that 10 times run * more than 100 employees. Fine. Automate it.

You train the employees and bring them to a better level. You act as a 'facilitator'. When the numbers grow, you outsource it to a leading T & D firm.

You need human resources. You chalk out the manpower planning and get down to recruitment. If it's a quaterly exercise,you do it yourself. If its a weekly one like in an ITes sector,you outsource it. But please be there for the exit interviews. Attrition is so high, HR is more busy taking care of those leaving instead of the ones joining.

Time Office and leave management are all again taken care of by automation.

Industrial disputes are better dealt by lawyers. And anyway, how many new age HR grads know their Labour Laws?

Organisation Development is handed to consultants.

Yeah if there's any ERP to be implemented,HR will chip in with their functional consultant. Ah, of some use after all.

Work culture needs to be taken care of. If each line manager and superior takes adequate care of his Dept and subordinates as per the guidelines, isnt culture taken care of at the micro and macro level too? Mind the seconds; hours take care of themselves?

So,all the HR Freaks...what the hell are you passionate about??




© Zarine.

January 21, 2006

Pet Peeves

One more tag..and again..Puneet it is!

X = People/folks/persons (u get the picture ;) )

  1. X who dont reply to SMSes and e-mails. Too busy, u see!
  2. These same folks calling up and mailing you frantically when they 'need' you.
  3. When am interrupted while making a point.
  4. I'm real pissed off when in a debate, X simply rubbishes my points with a wave of his hand and smirks.
  5. X who say they'd call / drop by, but never really do.
  6. Too many questions.
  7. When my sis wants the fan on at a full blast and then uses the quilt!! WTH!!!
  8. When it takes more than 20-25 mins for my order to be served. On more than one occassion,I've walked out.
  9. X who cant make up their minds even after the deed is done. Typical eg. :- Purchase something- come home-think-think-think- go back to the shop-exchange!!
  10. X who judge others by their taste in books/clothes/music/food/TV channel/etc. Preferances can never judge the whole persona.
  11. When X cant take on me straight and use the Bypass Attack technique to get even.
  12. X who make fun of other X's personality/religion/or anything which is a personal choice.
  13. X who cant make a decent conversation in simple english.
  14. X who cant handle a joke. Stiff upper-lipped people.
  15. X who indulge in looooooooonnnnnnnngggggg meaningless small talk, esp over the phone.
  16. Orkut and its bad donut naatak!
  17. X who claim they know me too well. Save three, none can claim that.
  18. When people are judged based on IQ, instead of their EQ.
  19. Snobs.
  20. When US of A is referred to with much reverance. God knows for what.
A new set of bloggers this time around...umm..

  1. Insidemamind
  2. Manish
  3. Kon??
  4. Sameer


© Zarine.

January 13, 2006

Wah wah!!

With the MBA program coming to its end there's a spate of parties, averaging to 2 per day! Its at these places when the guys are in their real elements. Sample this couplet by one of them:-

"Hai jo tere ishq mein itna khauff,
Hai jo tere ishq mein itna khauff,
Then just F**k off, f**k off, f**k off!! "

ROFL!!



© Zarine.

January 02, 2006

Wham-bang-CRASH!!

Yay. The New Year started with a bang. Literally and physically :))

Poor me was in an auto which looked real sad. The auto wala should've been in his Harem,counting his last days...but he chose otherwise. He drove the auto with so much zest,it would put the super sonic pilots to shame. And he banged into a bike. The auto jerked suddenly to the left - out I fell - auto followed suit - the whole damn machine landed on my ankle - OUCH!!!!!!

What next? Hospital, of course!! Thankfully had a pal - Ketan - along. Few moments of pain seem like eternity.I realised this when I was sitting outside the hospital, holding my ankle in agony and the watchman refused the wheelchair. Ketan tried his best to drive sense into the guy, but he wouldnt listen. He wanted us to take another entrance which led to the OPD. But here I could barely stand, leave along walking that distance. Someone else came along and thankfully let us in,with me on the wheelchair.

Trust me, I felt so funny. Sitting on that wheelchair and being wheeled about. Recalling the whole incident makes me nauseatic. I dunno how I was smiling and grinning at that point,now I can hardly stomach that experience. X -Ray revealed it was Ankle Contusion
The Doc said..go home..and rest. So me is resting for another 4-5 days now.

God bless me.



© Zarine.