Of Choice and Consensus..

Today I was killing time in the canteen with my gang,when my classmate came rushing to me.
I asked what was wrong.He says,I need your help to decide what I'll take up as my specialisation in MBA. Huh??!!! And I tght,patah nahi kya golmaal karke aaya hai!! :))

Z:- Ok,let's begin with ur interests....what do you like?
VS:- I dunno.
Then I remind him,he's the most active banda in the Operations class.So,mebbe Ops...?
Vs:- Yeah,I like that.
Z:- So done!!!! Spl in Ops!!!
VS:-NO!! Dad wants me to do Finance!
Z:- You like Fin?
VS:- No!
Z:- Then dont do it! Simple! Then I let him know how imp it is to be satisfied with your choice of field and that he'll have to work a lil hard during the placement season is not much known for Ops,but at the end of the day he'll be doing what he likes....Banda appears totally convinced...
Z:- So,Ops it is?
VS:- No,I think I need lil more brainstorming sessions.I'll talk to Mom-Dad tonight and decide.....Thanks anyways.

I thought about it after he left.I was just the way this guy is,few years back. Approvals,Assurances,Validations from everyone around,that what I was doing is right.I admit,a lil of it is still exists,but I limit it to very few close pals.

Where does this feeling stem from? To be accepted is a normal thing,but to be so dependant on people to make choices for your life and then expecting it to work out akin to asking them to visit the Doctor when you are sick!

I rem'ber constantly looking over my shoulder,to make sure that I wasnt doing anything wrong,anything unacceptable.How does it count what others say?

I read "Your Erroneous Zones" today in the lib.The author says,just keep in mind that one thing is constantly following you.And to make things better,let's name it "Your Death".You never know when it will catch up with you.So,with the eternal Death and brief Life,you'll see how little it matters what others think.The one life that you've got,is yours.Live it the way you want to.And dont expect it to be easy.At the end,you may win,you may lose.But when you lose,you lose without any regrets.And believe me,that's more easier to live with.

"Follow your heart-for those who mind don't matter and those matter dont mind."

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