The Art Of Detachment

Continuing from the previous post, a key element in loving yourself is taking care of yourself. Again,easier said than done.

Why does it hurt so much when people walk away from your life? Why does one feel so lonely and down? How can someone have the ability to cause us pain in such a capacity? Why cant people let go easily? Why are so many tears and heartbreaks a part of the process?

Nothing lasts.Really nothing does.At the end of the day,you are all by yourself.And most of the time,you are either sad or just plain blank.You wish for someone who could've being there to share your blues,but the stark reality is...even if someone is there,s/he wont be there forever.

Rem'ber before those presentations/speeches/plays in front of an audience, no matter how much anyone told u to be confident, you always had to have a lil talk with yourself , assuring yourself that everything would be ok ? Tht "C'mon,you can do it" pep talks before the D-Day. Revising your subjects, making sure you didnt leave out anything. Even if your pal said, he'll "take care" of certain portions, you'd still glance thru' it...you know,just in case!

Then why is it that when it comes to relations, we leave everything on the other party? Why does it hurt so much when they dont respond? Coz we expected the other person to care.And s/he didnt. Expectations are the root cause of most miseries.

Learn to detach yourself.From everything and everyone.And you need tremendous amout of self belief to do that.

You fulfil wht's required of you. You get out and get your due. You dont wait for anyone to do anything for you. You dont expect anyone to do/say anything. You simply state what you need. If it's fulfilled,well and good. If not,and if it's not in your capacity to fulfil it for urself,you move on. When you dont expect from someone,there's hardly anything that binds you to them,save blood ties and thick friendships.

It may sound a cold hearted approach, but it saves you from a lot of pain that comes from unfulfilled expectations. Making your wishes and dreams come true, keeping yourself happy is your responsibility. Dont let your emotions be at stake of someone's whims and fancies.

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