Women - I
The most common complaint men have is their inability to understand what women want. I was wondering,is it really so difficult to know us?
One SMS was doing rounds - What women say and what they actually mean.It got me thinking. I guess, that's where the main problem lies. Women dont state what they think. They have something on their mind,and they say something that is connected to it.No doubt,guys good at crosswords have it easy ;)
And this trend is observed only when it comes to their own self.If they find a puppy cute,they say it. But if they want to know about their looks,they would drop a hazaar hints before the guy actually gets it!! If they want something,they rarely ask for it.Instead it would be "She has it,I want it too" types, or she'd try to justify the need for it.
Why cant women simply be as direct and blunt as men are? The way they are bought up has some definite role to play. One has to be modest,not too demanding,always giving unto others and all that.
Women tend to be more insecure in relationships because of this.They seek assuarance. They need to be told they are loved. If a lady asks you,"How is this dress?", she's indirectly asking,"How'd I look in this dress?"
A man has to understand this deep sense of belonging a woman seeks.She might fish for compliments,but it wouldnt harm him if he gave her one. Initially she wouldnt be open regarding what she wants,but with time and more open communication,a man can gain her trust enough to make her talk what's on her mind.
To be continued....
Comments
u cannot actually say that its difficult to understand only women...Rather its difficult to understand this species called Human being..
Anyways, some good food for thought there!!
root cause for misunderstandings or probably even "not understanding the opposite sex" comes from the insecurities we have within us regarding our own understanding of ourselves. We always try to look for something in others that has been missing in us.
keep it up :)
True,we need to gain proper insights about ourselves before trying to understand the other person.
Anyway, have just endured a torrid experience......so can safely say that I find that women can be pretty confusing :-(. Although, I have it on authority from several women (3 in fact) that the woman in question is behaving totally normally (they predicted what happened) and that it is the guy's fault!!!!
So, at the end of the day, I guess, it's all about Venus and......yep, in Mars I trust!!!!
To m , the intelligent commenter above me whoever you are , your mom and sister are girls too , why would u say that sentence then ?
@ Puneet - Hehehe,now that's wht I call 'playing safe' ;)
@ m - well,read ur blog.Considering your mindset at this stage,would agree that the girl in question is stupid,not all girls in general.So,peace :).