It's ok...!


At times I wonder how carefully we protect our feelings and ourselves from hurt.This attitude may prevent you from making mistakes,or trying out newer things in life,but we are more than happy taking good care of ourselves.

Wont say tht's wrong,coz your first responsibility lies towards yourself.But the problem begins when people carry it too far.

You wont tell someone how much you love him/her,coz you may lose tht person.You wont play against estd players,coz you may lose.You wont let others know about ur feelings for them,coz chances are they might misunderstand or even worse,think too much of themselves.And in both cases you might lose them.You wont love,coz it hurts.You were hurt once,so you wont love again.Heck,this is not what they meant when they said learn from your mistakes.It means,learn and improve.Nobody said stop living or loving.

You dont like Maths/Social Sciences coz you fail in those subjects.You lose your marks there.Some even believe,if you laugh too much today,you'll cry tomorrow!! So,you wont laugh today,coz you dont want to cry tomorrow.You may lose someone tomorrow,so you'd rather let that person go today,coz it'll hurt less.

Why are so over-protective towards ourselves? Why do we think and think before we take the plunge? You can swim only after you take the dive! And what'll happen if you get hurt? Why are we so afraid of pain? And tears? And they still manage to find their places in our lives.Why cant we just let go and live the present? Is living safe the way one enjoys life? Why do we take ourselves so seriously? It's ok to get hurt,to make mistakes and to cry.There's nothing wrong with it.Why do we have to project a tough,macho image? What's wrong if you shed a tear or two?Granted,sometime stakes are high and you cant afford to make a mistake.But if such a cautious approach begins directing your life,that's wrong.

Why cant we be comfortable with ourselves when we commit a folly? It all stems from the belief that we should be brave,strong all the time.We should never be foolish enough to make mistakes.We should be wise and make wise decisions.If you make wrong decisions,you are bad.Fine! Am bad! But I've learnt what not to do next time I do the same thing!

Be Free.Of all such binding factors.Live with the purpose of discovering life.And a closed mind will allow you to do anything but that.



Ps:- And that reminds me of something.Always choose a life partner who's ready to forgive your follies and still accept you.Who's not judgemental all the time.Who smiles when you do something silly :).

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