Combating Loneliness

There’s a difference between the two….being alone & being lonely. I’ve come to realize that both have a lot to do with one’s state of mind. Being alone is a choice one makes…and being lonely…well, again a choice one makes, but subconsciously. Loneliness is a state where one doesn’t enjoy anyone’s company, prefers to stay aloof, is not bothered with the affairs around and generally leads a solitary existence. When does this happen? A difficult question. Lady L often buddies up with the Dame D – Depression. And Dame D visits only after His Exalted Excellence – Excitement leaves. It’s a low after a high, a very big high (what English is that??).

Excitement exhausts a person so much that sustaining that level for a long period isn’t possible. One tends to build up on it…and wants more and more tempo to be added…and somewhere the cookie crumbles. Dame D is actually important in life, if one wants to attain some sorta balance. A balanced mind treats success & failure, high & lows with same attitude. A lil indifferent…a lil ‘cut off’.

When does one want to be alone? Usually when there’s so much turmoil in the mind…a dozen different voices shouting thousand different opinions..one needs to just et away and sort it out. Being alone is required when one wants to step back and take a perspective. Rarely does it have anything to do with Lady L. Infact, when Lady L visits, one doesn’t quite know the difference between the 2. Being alone = being lonely.

People who are comfortable being alone are those who are comfortable in their skins. But I would bet my bar of Cadbury’s that anyone who’s comfy in his skin has had a visit by Lady L sometime in his life.

All in all….Dame D is nature’s way to sober a person down. Infact, it makes one discover a lot about oneself…and tht’s important if one wants to really live life.

So here’s to Life and Loneliness! 3 cheers!

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