As If I Care..!

Trust is built through credibility. Credibility is built through accountability. Accountability is built through responsibility. Responsibility is built through ownership. Ownership is built through identifying with the objective. Identification is built through internalization. Internalization is built through synchronizing the external objectives with internal goals. Goals are built through purpose. So if you lack purpose, you cannot be trusted.

...don’t lose your manners. Being in HR, I’m a recipient of all kinds of resumes, CVs, bio-data, profiles, what-have-you. The first thing that strikes me about job mails is the lack of effort, interest and respect displayed by the applicant. For most of them, there’s no formal addressing. It begins with “Hello. I’m blah blah blah”. And God bless those ones who “expect a favor from you as he/she are alumnus/ X’s cousin/ Y’s colleague/ Z’s daughter in law” Excuse me, but none of the above obliges me to consider your profile for my organization. Period. What follows next is the grief story on why he/she wants to switch. Okay. Whatever. The worse are the concluding remarks. “I expect a positive response at the earliest” or “Keep me posted”. I just can’t help laughing at such mails/ cover letters. Which brings me to the point of cover letters. These days, thanks to the numerous consultants and job portals, applicants don’t take the pain of drafting a cover letter. It was on...

In continuation of the last post...I actually thought about that line.   Dum hai boss.   I also realized, that besides the people I hate and my sweetheart (mutually exclusive please! J ) I think about my friends and couple of other people too. And in this list of other people, I think of Allwin Agnel the most. I dunno why. I just think about him and that’s about it...! Not that I wanna join his firm or something (I’m basically a very lazy person & his firm is too charged up for my comfort :P ). He keeps flashing in my mind...and since I’m into psychology and stuff...I’m sure its symbolic of something. Dunno what though. When I have free time, I just open the PG forum or the Slog page...not that I look forward to any information or have something to contribute there...but...its an old habit which refuses to die hard. He hangs around in the back of my mind. Doesn’t say anything. I thought I’ll talk to him once and maybe the thing...

I read this the other day, “We become what we think of”   It made me yawn. Or maybe it was the biryani I had for lunch that made me yawn. So, back to the statement. The author of this particular statement says that when you believe in this one line, it will change your life. And you’ll be happy, successful and find a BMW next time you scratch a detergent bar coupon (ok, that was made up)   “We become what we think of”. Hmm, what do I think of the whole day? I think of escaping from certain people I so hate, I think of what my better half must be doing, I think of how futile it is to struggle at times...infact, it amazes me now that I think more about people I don’t like than the ones I adore!   I’m so caught up in hating and getting back at those people, that I don’t think of anything else for most of the day! What a waste! But you know, these people (the ones you hate & vice versa) do such things to your s...

Hey... : ) ! Today was one of those days when you hear from an old acquaintance and just can’t help smiling. Flashback – 15 years ago, we left a wonderful township to move to another city. My first best friend, C, comes from this place. Mom’s best friend S Aunty also hails from this place. S Aunty had 2 sons A & D. A was in the same class as my lil bro & Aa was 2 years younger to them. I still remembered these 2 brats as naughty boys who just wouldn’t sit still. Cut back to the present. Dad’s best friend P’s son N is in love with S Aunty’s niece. How they got to know each other is a LONG story. Now, mom, dad, sis, P Uncle & Aunty & N have gone visiting S Aunty and her family for a formal marriage proposal. In between all of this, I get a call from A. A’s exciting voice from other end of the phone goes “Di, guess who?!!!!!” To be honest, I didn’t have a faintest idea A would call, so I couldn’t guess...but when he let me know, I couldn’t stop smiling. What mo...

A bird sitting on a branch does not feel scared of the branch shaking, coz it doesn’t trust the branch...it trusts its own wings.

I should author a book on managing uncertainties. It’ll be titled “What you should know when you don’t know!” (Copyright & all those rights applicable!!) Ok, why do I say this? It’s coz last 2 years of my life...I’ve plunged head first into so many things about which I had no clue about. City change...how will you handle the new city ? No idea. Role change...how will you handle that? No idea. Another role change in 6 months...again, no idea. In year from then...get into the leadership program...with no idea...get into another role in 3 months from then with no idea...and again consider yet another role with...you got it right...NO IDEA! Now, No Idea here does not mean I don’t know what I’m getting into. It means...I dunno how I’ll handle it. The point also is...I’m so open to change that it surprises me. I have no apprehensions dealing with new people, new situations. I just get into it, do my stuff and move on. Is it coz I don’t know what I want? Indeed, what do I want? No Idea....

An amusing discussion between a colleague and me. C : (..Continuing from a ongoing conversation)...so we just need to buff it up a little.. Z : (interrupting)....need to ‘what’ a little? C : Buff? Ok...in my comp engg days, we used to call it buffing up things... Z : (nodding my head)...oh k...you are a computer engineer?? C : (shrugs) umm...yeah...but then MBA ruined everything! Z : (raises eyebrows)...you are an MBA?? C : (nods head in a weird way)...well, yeah...but you know, 5 years of corporate life wiped it all out... Z: (eyebrows still raised)...you’ve worked 5 years?? C: (smiles)...yeah...but still feels like my first job!! Z: (nods head with a know all expression)...ahhh...so you are basically as good as a 12 th pass doing his first job! C: (Stunned)...err...what??? Z : Hehehehehehe * Grins *

A great boss Is not someone who solves tricky issues for you, but teaches you to approach them and stays there till you solve Is not someone who is all the time around, doing most of what you should be doing Is not someone who interferes with your job so much that folks think he/she's the one doing it, not you! Is not someone who does all things 'strategic' and leaves the 'tactical' stuff for you Is not someone who uses your informal conversations against you in formal forums Is not someone who you makes you think its ok to be average Is not someone who crucifies you for your delays, but is himself/herself late all the while Is not someone who sees the micro level issues to such an extent that he/she loses sight of the bigger picture Is not someone who agrees with you all the time Is not someone who ignore you all the time Is not someone who makes you wish you had quit long time back Is not someone who kills the ambition in you to move ahead Is not someone who makes...

Ho hummm...feeling light and airy today. My new role worked out (thank god!) and am involved in coupla good projects. I love the way my blog looks...infact, now that I think of it...I should've archived all the screen shots of the themes I had for my blog...considering I keep changing them every 3-4 months..those would be a lot! So generally folks...keep cribbing and cheering....life rolls on.. :) © Z

Its been a while since I had a heart to heart chat with this blog. With this html text page with links & codes because my friends are too busy for me. Never mind. It’s such tumultuous times out here. The pressure and stress I’m undergoing is beyond me. Am between roles…and what a way I’m in between roles! My past role has my replacement already onboard. My next role is under discussion. So basically neither here nor there. How does one react in such situations? When in the past one year you have been so bogged down with work that “spare time” seemed like nirvana. But hey. It’s ok to be in ambiguous situations. Its great if the next role materializes. Its ok if it doesn’t. Something else will. I might want to enjoy this interim period of fewer expectations and pressures. Personally, things are beginning to hit choppy waters. I don’t even know how to put across the anxieties I face daily. 24 hours. And then I have this nagging headache. Woah…I don’t wanna head for a nervous breakdown...

Its funny & weird and oh so déjà vu. The ability to screw up things. The thought that you can talk your mind with someone and yet not impact your relation. That the other person would put things in perspective and not react. It just doesn’t work. Never. You ALWAYS have people taking decisions and sounding you off for thinking x,y,z and how things can never be the same. And of course, the done to death “you have changed” tone which’ll make you wince and wonder why did you even bother talking in the first place. Just let things be. Status quo.   If you have an issue with someone you care for, don’t talk about it. Seldom does honesty find a deserving audience.

Am desperately searching for the "Dancing Jodi" video from Rab ne bana di jodi. The one in the climax wherein they dance and win the first prize (wow..!..duh!) Plllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssssseeeeeeee paste the link if any of u finds it... © Z.

The presence of Love in our lives is seldom noticed till it goes missing. Its presence becomes a default requirement...a taken for granted virtue..something we dont spare much thought for. Spend a lonely hour, a day filled with emptiness, a life recalling memories and imagining what could have been, make you realise Love is such a precious thing. You cant trade it off for anything else...its all compromise thereafter. Love comes in all ways & forms unimagined. It's those few who realise just in time and hang on it...the remaining keep searching for what was theirs once. Aaye tum yaad mujhe...gaane lagi har dhadkan... © Z.

I'm very anxious. Was all along getting ready for this roller coaster ride...infact experienced the joys of post ride before the ride! It's like working backwards...now getting on to the ride...dont really want to think what, how, why...will handle things as they come (as a good ol vipz advised) Carry me through this good Lord. © Z.

Oh yeah..I had to update about the remaining diet days…ummm… Day 3 was bananas & milks & soup…so u can imagine how it went! Started with banana shake...and veg soup and then some more veg soup and bananas and then some milk. If anyone wants to know how a banana fed cow looks like, meet me. Day 4 was all fruits & veg. Same old soup and same old fruits. I can sense their disdain when I reach out for them in the fridge. Day 5 was chicken & tomatoes. NOW WE ARE TALKING!! I made some nice chicken stew. ZERO oil. This lasted me till tea time. Dinner was Minced chicken..yumm! Day 6 was chicken & veggies. No chicken today as had no time to shop. Had the usual veggie fare. Day 7 was rice & veggie & fruits. Had everything except the ones mentioned here. So, Day 7 marked end of a uneventful diet program. The results? Well well…didn’t check!! Actually, didn’t bother to. But I have lost some inches and few of my old clothes which were on brink o...

All veggie day. Starts with 2 boiled potatoes with a pat of butter (part of diet, before you wince!). Lunch was Subway veggie salad...some more of veggie salad in the eve. I was feeling drowsy the whole day...infact, the morning began with a headache. As the clock ticked, I was getting more cranky and edgy. Towards the evening, went for a movie. Heehaahaaa..had a veggie sandwich & a tub of butter popcorn. And Pepsi. Day 2 ruined. Sigh. © Z.

Day I of GM Diet is all fruits day, except bananas. So the day begun with fruit salad...followed by apple..then guavas...then some chikoos...then pomegranate...and it was just 2 pm :(. Hunger pangs every 30 mins! Had lots of water thru the day. Had to visit a batchmate's wedding in the eve. Well..err..had some spring rolls and paneer pakoras...but the dinner was a fruit plate. Duh. It's so uncool, this diet. © Z.

There has been no mortal (the female kinds specially) who would not get charmed by the idea of losing weight without working out! Latest victim is yours truly. The GM Diet begins tomorrow. © Z.

1. How can emotions rule finance? 2. How do you give unto someone, when you actually wanted her to give unto you? 3. How do you have your hands across something that's splitting from all sides? 4. How can time just fly when you were worried all day about how it will pass by? 5. Why do people want to control & micro manage? 6. What kind of people are control freaks? 7. How can you keep making promises to yourself and not honor them? 8. How can you be sure about your decision? 9. How do you provide solace to a upset heart thats given up on hope? 10. How can you make yourself do something that you just dont want to do? 11. Why would you want to do something that you dont want to do? 12. Why cant you not do what you dont want to do? 13. Why does it matter so much if it wasnt meant to be done? 14. What if it was meant to be, but you dont want to do it? 15. Back to Q # 10 16. Why is life so fucked up? 17. Do I have to round it off to 20 Qs? 18. What if I dont want to? 19. And who car...